Today is the last day Tigger will be 18 months old. 18 months was a very trying month. I'm really not sorry to let it go. Tigger finally came back from the land of 'strange' back to the land of normal. Well sorta....normal for a tyke.
This morning was all smiles and laughter. On the car ride to daycare, the lighbulb finally turned on and she realized that if she does certain things with her nose, she can hear the mucous rattling in there. It made for her entertainment and laughter and squealing with delight all the way to daycare. Wow. Really? I guess it's only a matter of time before the infamous phase of picking one's nose becomes popular.
Either way, I am liking this temperament more than what was going on with the excessive teething and downed immune system. While our little one's grow up really really fast and we are all supposed to want time to stop, I do have to say 18 months was not my all time favorite.
So farewell....I'm sure other months/years will be more challenging....I just am getting used to that idea. Let me bask in cuteness for a while longer before the real nitty gritty parenting comes into play.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Because I've been talking about passion in family lately....
Ok, I know my family and when we get together with more family invites egocentrism in our awesomeness, however, I would like to share some things that may get a chuckle out of you! Taken from a configuration of lists out there from more egocentric, narcissistic, awesome Cubans....
You know you are Cuban when....(these pertain to our family)
-You grew up scared of something called ''el cucu'' (the boogie man...but oh so much more)
-Others tell you to stop screaming when you are really talking (all the time)
-You have ever left grass for the camels on the night of January 6th instead of cookies and milk for Santa on -Christmas eve. (my aunt still does this)
-Dinner usually consists of rice, beans, and some kind of meat. (in our case veggie meat)
-You have ever used your nose or lips to point something out. (pointing with your finger is rude)
-You have ever drop food on the floor, picked it up, and ate it after saying ''lo que no mata engorda'' (what doesn't kill you makes you curvier)
-You have ever been hit with ''el cinto'' a ''chancleta'' or ''un tareco'' (well no, but a chancleta or flip flop has flown around in the house a time or two growing up)
-Your mom yells at the top of her lungs to call you for dinner, even though you live in a one bedroom apartment. (my dad is louder than my mom, but my aunt? oh my....)
-Your house has all of those little figurines that take every inch of space in the house, and you have either one of the following: a porcelain cat, dog, or elephant in your living room (really? that BIG porcelain cat all throughout my childhood was popular in your house too?)
-You just cant imagine anyone not liking Cuban food. (it's the ultimate comfort food baby!)
You call your sneakers ''tenis'' or ''zapatillas'' (tenis....put your tenis was the common phrase)
-You have at least 30 cousins (these are usually not your first cousins....these are cousins...I don't care what you call them 2nd, 3rd, once removed WTH is that removed business anyways)
-You consider platanos to be a food group (well I like tostones or plantain chips, I'm not big on platano maduro frito...too sweet, Tigger loves it all though)
-You constantly say.. ''En cuba eso era mejor, en cuba no pasa eso'' (only in terms of family connections not freedoms or stuff like that)
-Your family`s reunions usually consists of all types of food, music, and lots of people screaming (oh and our family had an affinity...still does...to invite absolute strangers to partake in our craziness...they even had to participate....poor people....our local homeless guy enjoyed the food though!)
-You have been on a 2 passenger car, with over 7 people in it, and still a person shouting ''caben mas'' (um well an incident with 9 people, 4th of July, and stacked 3 rows high in a small truck space comes to mind)
-Your idea of formal is wearing a ''guayabera'' (my grandfather only wears guayaberas)
-Your favorite words are ''Oye'' or ''Ven aca'' when you are right next to a person. (oye is a great word...it means Hey....it's awesome if you're shouting it across the room)
-You think the perfect family should resemble the ''Que pasa USA'' family (my parents loved that show)
-You are registered Republican (well...my mother and I are public employees so no, but others outside the immediate family are due primarily to this phrase "Kennedy and the bay of pigs")
-You have used the words '' Acere, mi socio, consorte, oye men'' within the last week (oye men is an awesome phrase too....exclamations are popular)
-Your favorite milkshakes flavors are ''mamey, papaya, or guanabana'' (I would kill for a mamey milkshake right now)
-Your favorite Sunday sport is dominoes (I'll wipe the floor with you in this game)
-You constantly say.. ''Fidel se cae este año'' (do you know how long we've been waiting for a certain person to die?)
-You go to your family or friend`s funeral to tell jokes and socialize (sadly many "awesome" moments of socialization andgossip catching up with friends happened during funerals)
-You pay money you don’t have for your daughter`s ''quinces'' (this is why my parents did everything or hired friends for my 15th....and my mom cooked for 150 people...she said never again and that we are catering the wedding if I marry)
-You use words like, '' bipeame, faxeame, shipeame, and taipeame'' (the strange and unusual Spanglish that comes out of our mouths)
-You clean your teeth with a toothpick in public after eating (my dad is the king)
-You call Publix; ''el publie'' (holds true for my FL family peeps)
-You grew up thinking that going swimming after lunch could cause you a ''sirimba'' , so it was best to wait at least 3 or 4 hours. (sirimba, aire, patatu, can I go on about made up ailments? No shower or swimming after eating, you.will.die!)
-Your baby smells like ''agua de violetas'' (Tigger always has her perfume...I get made fun off by stuffy Americans that say cologne for babies is so unnecessary.....next person that opens their mouth about how my girl has perfume will be hit, my girl smells awesome and Cuban)
-At every B-day party there is an assortment of ''pastelitos de carne, guayaba, croquetas & bocaditos'' and they are all placed in the table next to the cake so they could come out in the picture for your cousins in Cuba. (I don't know how many times I posed for a picture or to send a message to a cousin i never met in Cuba)
-You have told your kid not to walk the floor barefoot or they'll catch a cold. (and people on adoption.com wonder why I'm anal about having socks and shoes on my child's feet at all times....Tigger will catch an 'aire' man! One time she was barefoot on TILE flooring and my mother came to my house unannounced....um that was not a pretty conversation)
-If you've ever gotten yelled at by your abuelos for spending mad money and then gotten a "Cuando llegamos de Cuba..." (I don't know how many times I was told about how there was only the clothes on their backs when they came to the USA when I would complain about not having the latest cool thing)
-If you know your mom is near because you hear an "OYE!" (not my mom really, but my aunt! OYE!)
-You know your mom is sneaking up on you cause you can hear her "chancletas" flapping on the linoleum floor. (feet cannot be bare on floor....hence the chancla or sandal)
-If your grandparents still have plastic on their couches. (*snickers*)
-If you live in Elisebe (Elizabeth), Junion Ceety, (Union City) or Wes Nu Jor (west NY) or even know where they are (Junion Ceety was visited every summer)
-If your family reunions consist of all types of food, dominoes, political talk, music and lots of people and screaming. (well what else is new?)
These are true but due to certain religious practices were not true in our family
-When your mom gets mad she yells ''Me c*a*g*o en la madre que te pario'' (vulgar language...unacceptable in our house, no I won't translate)
-You use redundant expressions like ''Me c*a*g*o en la m*i*e*r*d*a'' (same as above except this phrase happens to be redundant...however because it sounds more meaningful and flowery I guess redundancy doesn't matter)
-You have a chemical dependence on Cuban coffee after every meal (we drink very little coffee compared to most Cubans....some of my relatives don't drink any)
-Your tradition is to kill a pig and roast it in your back yard on Christmas eve. (against our health message)
-You wear several gold rings, a very wide gold watch, and a heavy gold wrist chain (even those of us with jewelry wear it minimally....)
-You can dance merengue, rumba, salsa, anything...without music! (he he he dancing leads to premarital relations and drinking don't ya know?)
-You use ''manteca'' instead of olive oil, and still cant figure out why your butt is getting bigger (olive oil is healthy and we adhere for the most part to our health message)
You know you are Cuban when....(these pertain to our family)
-You grew up scared of something called ''el cucu'' (the boogie man...but oh so much more)
-Others tell you to stop screaming when you are really talking (all the time)
-You have ever left grass for the camels on the night of January 6th instead of cookies and milk for Santa on -Christmas eve. (my aunt still does this)
-Dinner usually consists of rice, beans, and some kind of meat. (in our case veggie meat)
-You have ever used your nose or lips to point something out. (pointing with your finger is rude)
-You have ever drop food on the floor, picked it up, and ate it after saying ''lo que no mata engorda'' (what doesn't kill you makes you curvier)
-You have ever been hit with ''el cinto'' a ''chancleta'' or ''un tareco'' (well no, but a chancleta or flip flop has flown around in the house a time or two growing up)
-Your mom yells at the top of her lungs to call you for dinner, even though you live in a one bedroom apartment. (my dad is louder than my mom, but my aunt? oh my....)
-Your house has all of those little figurines that take every inch of space in the house, and you have either one of the following: a porcelain cat, dog, or elephant in your living room (really? that BIG porcelain cat all throughout my childhood was popular in your house too?)
-You just cant imagine anyone not liking Cuban food. (it's the ultimate comfort food baby!)
You call your sneakers ''tenis'' or ''zapatillas'' (tenis....put your tenis was the common phrase)
-You have at least 30 cousins (these are usually not your first cousins....these are cousins...I don't care what you call them 2nd, 3rd, once removed WTH is that removed business anyways)
-You consider platanos to be a food group (well I like tostones or plantain chips, I'm not big on platano maduro frito...too sweet, Tigger loves it all though)
-You constantly say.. ''En cuba eso era mejor, en cuba no pasa eso'' (only in terms of family connections not freedoms or stuff like that)
-Your family`s reunions usually consists of all types of food, music, and lots of people screaming (oh and our family had an affinity...still does...to invite absolute strangers to partake in our craziness...they even had to participate....poor people....our local homeless guy enjoyed the food though!)
-You have been on a 2 passenger car, with over 7 people in it, and still a person shouting ''caben mas'' (um well an incident with 9 people, 4th of July, and stacked 3 rows high in a small truck space comes to mind)
-Your idea of formal is wearing a ''guayabera'' (my grandfather only wears guayaberas)
-Your favorite words are ''Oye'' or ''Ven aca'' when you are right next to a person. (oye is a great word...it means Hey....it's awesome if you're shouting it across the room)
-You think the perfect family should resemble the ''Que pasa USA'' family (my parents loved that show)
-You are registered Republican (well...my mother and I are public employees so no, but others outside the immediate family are due primarily to this phrase "Kennedy and the bay of pigs")
-You have used the words '' Acere, mi socio, consorte, oye men'' within the last week (oye men is an awesome phrase too....exclamations are popular)
-Your favorite milkshakes flavors are ''mamey, papaya, or guanabana'' (I would kill for a mamey milkshake right now)
-Your favorite Sunday sport is dominoes (I'll wipe the floor with you in this game)
-You constantly say.. ''Fidel se cae este año'' (do you know how long we've been waiting for a certain person to die?)
-You go to your family or friend`s funeral to tell jokes and socialize (sadly many "awesome" moments of socialization and
-You pay money you don’t have for your daughter`s ''quinces'' (this is why my parents did everything or hired friends for my 15th....and my mom cooked for 150 people...she said never again and that we are catering the wedding if I marry)
-You use words like, '' bipeame, faxeame, shipeame, and taipeame'' (the strange and unusual Spanglish that comes out of our mouths)
-You clean your teeth with a toothpick in public after eating (my dad is the king)
-You call Publix; ''el publie'' (holds true for my FL family peeps)
-You grew up thinking that going swimming after lunch could cause you a ''sirimba'' , so it was best to wait at least 3 or 4 hours. (sirimba, aire, patatu, can I go on about made up ailments? No shower or swimming after eating, you.will.die!)
-Your baby smells like ''agua de violetas'' (Tigger always has her perfume...I get made fun off by stuffy Americans that say cologne for babies is so unnecessary.....next person that opens their mouth about how my girl has perfume will be hit, my girl smells awesome and Cuban)
-At every B-day party there is an assortment of ''pastelitos de carne, guayaba, croquetas & bocaditos'' and they are all placed in the table next to the cake so they could come out in the picture for your cousins in Cuba. (I don't know how many times I posed for a picture or to send a message to a cousin i never met in Cuba)
-You have told your kid not to walk the floor barefoot or they'll catch a cold. (and people on adoption.com wonder why I'm anal about having socks and shoes on my child's feet at all times....Tigger will catch an 'aire' man! One time she was barefoot on TILE flooring and my mother came to my house unannounced....um that was not a pretty conversation)
-If you've ever gotten yelled at by your abuelos for spending mad money and then gotten a "Cuando llegamos de Cuba..." (I don't know how many times I was told about how there was only the clothes on their backs when they came to the USA when I would complain about not having the latest cool thing)
-If you know your mom is near because you hear an "OYE!" (not my mom really, but my aunt! OYE!)
-You know your mom is sneaking up on you cause you can hear her "chancletas" flapping on the linoleum floor. (feet cannot be bare on floor....hence the chancla or sandal)
-If your grandparents still have plastic on their couches. (*snickers*)
-If you live in Elisebe (Elizabeth), Junion Ceety, (Union City) or Wes Nu Jor (west NY) or even know where they are (Junion Ceety was visited every summer)
-If your family reunions consist of all types of food, dominoes, political talk, music and lots of people and screaming. (well what else is new?)
These are true but due to certain religious practices were not true in our family
-When your mom gets mad she yells ''Me c*a*g*o en la madre que te pario'' (vulgar language...unacceptable in our house, no I won't translate)
-You use redundant expressions like ''Me c*a*g*o en la m*i*e*r*d*a'' (same as above except this phrase happens to be redundant...however because it sounds more meaningful and flowery I guess redundancy doesn't matter)
-You have a chemical dependence on Cuban coffee after every meal (we drink very little coffee compared to most Cubans....some of my relatives don't drink any)
-Your tradition is to kill a pig and roast it in your back yard on Christmas eve. (against our health message)
-You wear several gold rings, a very wide gold watch, and a heavy gold wrist chain (even those of us with jewelry wear it minimally....)
-You can dance merengue, rumba, salsa, anything...without music! (he he he dancing leads to premarital relations and drinking don't ya know?)
-You use ''manteca'' instead of olive oil, and still cant figure out why your butt is getting bigger (olive oil is healthy and we adhere for the most part to our health message)
Just because I found it funny
Ok to deviate from both adoption and parenting snippets.....let me do something random and something that I laughed at really loudly.
You all know the "epic fail" blog? it's a page just devoted to posting random or oxymoronic type pictures. Well I usually laugh at what I see. They also have a couple of pictures of "google fail", where you start typing up a question on the google page and you've all seen the various questions people have been recently asking. Sometimes there is a complete random one. Well the other day I was looking for some information via google and this is what popped up.
You all know the "epic fail" blog? it's a page just devoted to posting random or oxymoronic type pictures. Well I usually laugh at what I see. They also have a couple of pictures of "google fail", where you start typing up a question on the google page and you've all seen the various questions people have been recently asking. Sometimes there is a complete random one. Well the other day I was looking for some information via google and this is what popped up.
hmmm apparently my cell phone didn't take a good picture, takes the fun out of my blog post now, however my starting question was "why is.." and all these possibilities came up...
I really don't understand why anyone would ask "why is there a dead pakistani on my couch" umm 911 is a good start!
Wait here I go...FAIL!
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Enjoy it!
Well tomorrow is a legal holiday so hope you all have it off. I do, and I've been having some serious "me" time tonight, reading and catching up on the show 'Fringe' which I had a couple of episodes on the dvr.....while I may pay for it early in the morning, I'm planning on napping when Tigger naps as well.
Anyways just wanted to with you a great Monday and hope it's spent lounging around or at least a day where things don't have to go at stress pace!
Sincerely,
DannieA and Tigger
Anyways just wanted to with you a great Monday and hope it's spent lounging around or at least a day where things don't have to go at stress pace!
Sincerely,
DannieA and Tigger
Lunch Date!
I could give a rip who my friends are and what nationality/race they are....to me people are people and good ones should be kept as friends.
I met a friend of mine through an online adoption community and found out she was local. Actually she lives in the city where I used to live a few years back. Well she was placed with a darling baby boy in Aug. or Sept. of 09, and then I was placed with Tigger in Dec. of 09....even though she was placed first, Tigger is actually a month older than her little buddy. Since then we've kept in touch and have had a couple of lunch dates.
It's awesome. We "joke" around that these meetings are actually dates for D and Tigger and it's just nice to get out and so something with people that get it. I also love that she brings friends and her friends are funny and nice so it's a great time all around.
Back to my first sentence...while it's not the purpose of us getting together, I also appreciate the fact that I'm the "minority" in this group of gals. I don't consider Tigger to be a minority with us girls and her "man" because as a biracial child she fits in too. Some people think parents of children that are transracially adopted care too much about this. Sometimes I think some people care too little about these things. It's a fine balance. By all means don't go out seeking friends from a different racial/ethnic background just to score points on some scorecard, but actions speak louder than words, and it is important to really get to know and make friends with as many people as you can. It enriches your life, it enriches their life, it enriches your child's life.
By the way, this other mom and I are planning future dates for our kids...I think that's fantastic! She's a no nonsense mom and I don't want my kid hanging out with just anyone (ok I can be that mom too, I need to know your friend's parents)...I'm glad this mom and I met...not just online but in person. She and I have our adoption issues/topics that bring us together to be friends.
I met a friend of mine through an online adoption community and found out she was local. Actually she lives in the city where I used to live a few years back. Well she was placed with a darling baby boy in Aug. or Sept. of 09, and then I was placed with Tigger in Dec. of 09....even though she was placed first, Tigger is actually a month older than her little buddy. Since then we've kept in touch and have had a couple of lunch dates.
It's awesome. We "joke" around that these meetings are actually dates for D and Tigger and it's just nice to get out and so something with people that get it. I also love that she brings friends and her friends are funny and nice so it's a great time all around.
Back to my first sentence...while it's not the purpose of us getting together, I also appreciate the fact that I'm the "minority" in this group of gals. I don't consider Tigger to be a minority with us girls and her "man" because as a biracial child she fits in too. Some people think parents of children that are transracially adopted care too much about this. Sometimes I think some people care too little about these things. It's a fine balance. By all means don't go out seeking friends from a different racial/ethnic background just to score points on some scorecard, but actions speak louder than words, and it is important to really get to know and make friends with as many people as you can. It enriches your life, it enriches their life, it enriches your child's life.
By the way, this other mom and I are planning future dates for our kids...I think that's fantastic! She's a no nonsense mom and I don't want my kid hanging out with just anyone (ok I can be that mom too, I need to know your friend's parents)...I'm glad this mom and I met...not just online but in person. She and I have our adoption issues/topics that bring us together to be friends.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
February
February has got to be one of the worst months this school year for both Tigger and myself in terms of sickness. It also seems to not have been the best month for people I know either.
1. My friend's house burned down killing 3 of her pets....she's finally back at work, but you can tell it's been a stressor.
2. I caught some sort of stomach bug and had to depend on my folks to help out with Tigger as I was feeling weak and would be on the verge of passing out so could not be a parent to an 18 month old for a couple of days
3. Tigger caught a nasty bout of diarrhea....while I think it was related to her teething, still, we did the Dr. visits and everything else, and I've never done so much laundry
4. Tigger has been teething and while I'm normally a patient person, today I was about to go a little nutty as I stayed home with her which brings me to my next point
5. Tigger has never thrown up before and that's exactly what she did last night...oh laundry and cleaning...my word.
6. 3 teeth have come in, in the last 2 days. The last two days have been miserable. One more to go and I think we're done for a while (before the 2nd year molars) She's almost ready to cut tooth number 4.
7. Many co-workers and their families have been struck down by illness.
It's been a month hence the sporadic blogging, however, it's a month I don't mind if we just hurry up and get through to the "other side" of normalcy again.
1. My friend's house burned down killing 3 of her pets....she's finally back at work, but you can tell it's been a stressor.
2. I caught some sort of stomach bug and had to depend on my folks to help out with Tigger as I was feeling weak and would be on the verge of passing out so could not be a parent to an 18 month old for a couple of days
3. Tigger caught a nasty bout of diarrhea....while I think it was related to her teething, still, we did the Dr. visits and everything else, and I've never done so much laundry
4. Tigger has been teething and while I'm normally a patient person, today I was about to go a little nutty as I stayed home with her which brings me to my next point
5. Tigger has never thrown up before and that's exactly what she did last night...oh laundry and cleaning...my word.
6. 3 teeth have come in, in the last 2 days. The last two days have been miserable. One more to go and I think we're done for a while (before the 2nd year molars) She's almost ready to cut tooth number 4.
7. Many co-workers and their families have been struck down by illness.
It's been a month hence the sporadic blogging, however, it's a month I don't mind if we just hurry up and get through to the "other side" of normalcy again.
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