Thursday, November 10, 2011

And then life got interesting....

Hello friends out in blogosphere!

If you haven't noticed, my posts have been far and few in between.  I love this blog.  If I have any thoughts about parenting or adoption I still think about bringing it here, especially single parenting by choice.

Starting and maintaining the blog was easy.  I had thoughts, I was able to write in the evenings after the little one was in bed.  Life was smooth and uncomplicated.

I have been incredibly happy and complete!  I also made the choice not to actively date and to focus on my child  until she was older....and if by some reason some guy literally fell into my lap then ok I would consider but the possibility of that happening was very unlikely and I was very ok with that.

Can you guess what I'm about to say?  Yes, a guy literally fell into my lap.  I was secretly set-up by a mom friend and was invited to a lunch after church along with another friend of this family.  No expectations, they were hoping we'd be friends.  Well, we are friends.  The dating kind now.  It complicates life.  My Tigger is first and foremost.  After she is in bed, my new friend calls and we are slowly getting to know each other through the phone at night (when I usually was busy blogging) and we are able to see each other on the weekends.

Juggling parenthood and now dating is sometimes complicated.  I don't want to be one of those single moms that have guys coming in and out of a child's life.  My Tigger didn't sign up for that, heck she didn't sign up to end up with me either, and I am not willing to bring instability to Tigger's life.  I have already had the chat with my gentlemen friend about his intentions and that if he just wanted to play....he could look elsewhere, I have no time for it.  He received the message and has decided to stay in the picture.

Life is good.  Life is complicated.  I never thought this would be a turn I would be taking at this point in life.  If any of my readers especially the single mama's have any experience with this (ahem  MAMA MARGIE......I NEED YOUR SUPPORT AND ADVICE....E-MAIL ME) please feel free to offer any advice and mentor me!

Now that things have settled into the new normal of parenting first and dating second....I plan to continue my blog, however, I am still hoping to post about single parenting and adoption/foster care mostly.  That is how I started my blog and that's how I'd like to continue it.  I just thought I'd let you all in as to why I've been absent lately.

9 comments:

Step-parent's Cove said...

Dearest Dannie:

Congrats! And remember somethings if not all are God's will.

Barb said...

Oh how exciting! My second baby just turned one and I'm starting to try to make room in my life for me time, and occasionally I think about what it might be like to date, but I'm not quite ready yet. I'm excited to read your story as this progresses. Sounds like a very promising beginning.

Ticia said...

Sigh, I so wish you were closer.

Mie said...

Congrats on the newest development. I'm glad you have the blog to share your perspective and encourage other single moms (by choice or not) on living a great life.

Last Mom said...

I'm excited for you! You'll figure out the balance.

DeeChloRox said...

I just remembered that I wanted to come to your blog and tell you Ummm-Hmmmm! :) I'm happy for you. Life is always unexpected. Do blog about dating and parenting. I will not need that, but some younger mom may. Enjoy it all!!!!

grace kay said...

:)

JC said...

Good for you Dannie! I am so happy for you!!! :)

Lavender Luz said...

Oh, this sounds like the very BEST kind of complication!