Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Why I sometimes don't "fit in"
Part of an adoptive family
A single parent
A single parent by choice
A single parent by choice AND a Christian
Adopted from foster care through the county and not an agency
Not currently subscribed for online dating (a.k.a. I'm not sad that I'm not married)
I did not:
Battle with infertility
Adopt through a domestic infant program
have to deal with disapproving family members
meet any relatives at all even though it would have been nice to
Because of the above list, sometimes it's hard to have commonalities with a set group of people because my little family doesn't neatly fall into a niche that's common.
I am however grateful that we don't fall into a niche because it makes it easier to get to know others, get to know what their stories are, and see different viewpoints whether or not I agree with them or not. If one hasn't dipped their toe too far into the adoption lake, one wouldn't know how deep and complex the issues are and range from. From types of adoption, to what was the norm in the past, how it's changing, how it changed for the worse or better, acknowledging all members of the adoption triad, adoptee rights, grief and loss in adoption....a myriad of topics and issues that are present. If you dip your toe into the lake of choice moms or single parents by choice, there are a plethora of different stories and scenarios and different ways these people came to be or are striving to be parents.
Sometimes being different and delving into the unknown and learning from others is a much better deal! So go, step out of your mold, your clique and get to know some people that are in a different situation than you. You'll be glad you did.